Thursday, November 19, 2009

FB - Collar of Protection

I'd planned to put something up about this before I received a review questioning Edward's decision to collar Isabella. I knew some would have questions about it or just feel that it is too soon.

First, I want to point out that aside from the sexual aspect, they are already living as Dominant and submissive. He is giving her choices, freedoms, yes, but depending on the submissive's needs and wants that could be found in other D/s relationships. The only thing they are lacking is a formal agreement. And as many of you have commented in your reviews, she isn't ready for anything like that at this point.

So why the collar and what will it mean for their relationship? First, nothing major will change with their dynamics. As I've been doing research for this story, I came across a website talking about the meanings associated with D/s collars. After doing a little more research and talking with an actual submissive about it, I really wanted to share what I found out.

While a collar can be anything from a necklace to a bracelet to just about anything else a submissive is able to wear, the main thing is the meaning. It is the meaning both the Dominant and the submissive place on the collar that is important.

So that brings me to the Protection Collar. This collar is given to a submissive that has usually been in an abusive relationship and needs to recover. A Dom will take her under his wing, so to speak. While she wears this collar of protection she is not allowed to be approached by any other Dom's without the consent of the one whose collar she is wearing. The protecting Dom is responsible for seeing that her needs are met whatever they may be. That does include sexual needs, but it doesn't have to. His goal and responsibility is to help prepare her to re-enter the community and find a healthy D/s relationship for her.

If you want to read the full page with descriptions of all the different types of collars, here is the link


  1. perfect! thanks for filling in the gasp for those of us who are not as educated in this lifestyle.

  2. I think you've done a great job at showing that the collar is NOT about Edward dominating her -- it is for *HER* benefit (as it has been with everything he's done for her). I'm surprised that people are not "getting it"...
    Great story -- I'm really enjoying reading it...

  3. Your reference link is dead. Protection collars are not only for the abused. They are for anyone who feels they might need protection at an event, incase of being harrassed. A lot of submissives don't feel they have the ability to say no, so a protection collar gives them a nice out of things they don't really want to do.

    A protection collar NEVER involves sex. The submissive is a free agent to live their life as they wish. The 'protection' is only for lifestyle events and any approach by a Dominant which is not desired by the submissive.